Frank was right
“Start by doing what’s necessary; then do what’s possible; and suddenly you are doing the impossible.” – Francis of Assisi
No excuses. Every action need not be extraordinary. But you have to start. You have to start with ordinary circumstances, execute the basics and keep pushing up. You have to attack the small stuff that’s right in front of you to get ready for the big leaps that show up later.
No brainer, right? Wrong. Too many compromise their steps up the ladder – they want to start at the top; they want to begin with quantum leaps rather than start with small steps. And they fail to complete the climb.
Doing the impossible is the rarified territory of the pros – the ones who just started by doing what’s necessary, and then moved their way up.
Be a pro.
Name your fears
To name them is to destroy them. Simply naming our fears when they arise gives us the power to drive them away. It’s the process of putting the puzzle together and see what’s holding us back.
Most fears are monsters lurking in our imagination. Most times, we give them the power to keep us from living our best life.
Stop it. There’s nothing enlightened about relinquishing our power to fear. It’s there to be manifested to the world.
Get out of the way
Get out of your own way. Do the work. Let it proceed from you without judgment.
Be neither victor nor victim. Be you. Your authentic self. A channel for the creative impulses of the universe.
In the process become generous, joyful, and bold. Qualities inside you, available and ready to be cultivated and released upon your world.
Break a habit
Let go of something superfluous. Do something that pushes you out of your routine and makes you insecure. Throw off the comfort blanket.
It’s healthy to try honest changes. It’s healthy to grapple with who you are. It’s healthy to test yourself, to abandon what’s old and unworkable, what’s no longer needed as part of your self-definition.
The older you will feel pangs of loss and grieving, but the newer you will celebrate and grow stronger.
Don’t outsource your happiness
When you turn your happiness over to someone else, you give away your power.
Don’t give away your power. Do the work. Invest time on you.
You are responsible for your own happiness.
If knowledge is power, then learning is your superpower.
Cultivating this superpower depends on your teachability and your motivation – both within your control; both tied to choices you make every day.
Teachability is constrained by your ego – ego always gets in the way. You have to let go of pride, fear, and insecurity. You have to get real about what you don’t know. “Been there, done it” is not an excuse. Even billionaires and Nobel Prize winners stay committed to the learning path, always addressing their ignorance.
Get excited and fill in the gaps; stay receptive to opportunities for personal growth. It’s up to you to drive yourself and grow. That’s how you achieve goals, that’s how you realize dreams.
When you take your life into your own hands…
There’s no one to blame.
It’s terrifying to some, and liberating to others.
What about you?
There’s one thing no one else in the world has. No one else but you.
It’s your first-person life experiences – all the stuff embedded in the real you. Good, bad, or in-between, they are yours alone. No one has the exact set that you have. No one sees that collection of experiences the way you see them.
You can learn from your experiences and use them to keep pushing forward. You can share them with others too – as warnings or as examples
But even the best things that happened yesterday pale in comparison to what you can create today. Today, you must choose whether you will rubber stamp yesterday, or use what you’ve learned to create your better today – and tomorrow too.
Your history is a gift – for you to learn from, but not repeat.
Move ahead. No regrets.
If you wait for perfect, you won’t start. You won’t ship. You won’t get where you want to go.
Today, you might be doing it wrong, it may not be exactly what you want, but you’re doing it. You’re not wasting time trying to get it perfect.
By starting, and doing it, you get the chance to keep doing it better. And better still.
Start. No regrets.
How differently would you live your life if you didn’t care what people thought of you?
First, people don’t think about you like you think they do. And if they do, for some strange reason, how does that change your life? Does it really matter?
Besides, what they think about you is their problem, not yours.
So why not start surrounding yourself with more people who accept you as you are?