Most of what scares us never happened, and never will. We give away rent-free space in our head for unfounded beliefs and emotions – false evidence appearing real. Is it time to evict the unwanted and disabling thoughts? Is it time to feel the fear and move past it, move ahead in spite of it?
Do something about fear. Get help if needed. Unmask the illusion. Quit feeding the lies.
Fear makes us small, and robs us of joy. We deserve better.
The need to be right is a disease
A sign of insecurity, and missing self-forgiveness. An addiction to avoiding mistakes; repeatedly focusing on being perfect and pleasing. Something is broken.
The demand to be right is a certifiable condition. One that keeps us small, severed from the world. One that highlights pettiness and narcissism, feeding a surge of self-justified cause and self-defined morality.
Let go of the need, the demand, to be right. Fix the brokenness. Learn to forgive. Learn to experience joy.
Get to work
You can turn up your nose.
You can choose to not show up.
Or you can roll up your sleeves.
Work hard. You’re not entitled. The world needs, and you need, your contribution.
Focus on your own approval
Don’t rely on the approval of others. When you are at the bottom, they may disrespect you. In the middle, they may ignore you. At the top, they may revile you.
You don’t control the opinion of others – whether right or wrong. You only control your own. And your own approval is how you nurture self-esteem, how you progress through life.
Let go of the need to be approved. Get going on the design of your life. Stay self-aware, trust your instincts, and never fear to make changes when you – not others – decide they’re needed.
It’s not about who you think you’re not
It’s about who you are that holds you back. Who you think you’re not is just an opinion.
Moving ahead is about being accountable for who you are. If it’s not working, change.
Imperfect and okay
There’s a crack in every one of us. We’re all faulty and incomplete. If we look hard enough, we can see light coming in through the crack. We can see within that light and discover a better way to live.
It starts when we quit demanding perfection and start working – flaws and all. When we quit demanding we only encounter perfect circumstances. When we quit demanding perfection from others.
Life is never perfect, neat and orderly. We live in measures of chaos, within and without. But we can work within that chaos. We can do great things. We just have to recognize that what’s worth doing is worth doing imperfectly.
Talent is just the foundation
Effort is what drives you to the top. Effort is also the seed of character.
Talent is plentiful. Work is hard. Get to work.
Regret wastes time
No matter what was your choice or action. Move on.
You learn from the past. You can make amends. You can’t revise history.
All the hand wringing and second thoughts are a waste of time.
Q: What’s the difference between those who can’t read and those who don’t read?
A: Those who can’t, can learn.
For those who don’t read, is it about carelessness, lack of hunger for knowledge, poor habits and discipline? For those who won’t, is it willful refusal to grow; a stubborn, proud ego getting in the way?
What will change you in the next year, in the next five years, is more about the books you read and the people you meet.
What have you read lately?
Move to the edge
There is constant pressure to conform. Even those with radical points of view inevitably institutionalize their position and move to the center.
But originality happens on the edge of reality. Discovery is disconnected from the conventional. Opportunity rarely shows up by playing in the middle.
The best comes from pushing the edge. Every day.