Pain Avoidance

All beings must experience suffering and pain at some point in their lives.
Buddha ~ Dukkha

Do not avoid pain.
Your effort would be misplaced.
Pain and suffering are inevitable.
Choose your pain wisely.
Geoffrey Hale

Everyone wants to live a care-free, happy and easy life…
What pain do you want? What are you willing to struggle for?
Mark Manson, The Most Important Question Of Your Life

Actionable uncertainty

In response to “Where you are…” by Bob Riding,

“Once you know where you are, you next want to know where to go.” – Stephen Heiman

In Bob’s article, he writes that “until you know where you are, you won’t be able to chart where you can go.”  This message conflicts with Dan Thurmon’s philosophy which can be found here at Off Balance On Purpose by Dan Thurmon.  Dan’s philosophy include messages like “off balance is reality,” and “embrace uncertainty.”  I find Dan’s philosophy to be less idealistic and more realistic, less neurotic and more functional.

Life is fluid, chaotic, ever-changing.  You can never know exactly where you are, and still less of where you next want to go.  We derive our sanity from the patterns we suspect underlying the cacophony of reference experiences we have throughout our lives.  If we stay vigilant, our understanding will grow, perhaps ever more predictive of the outcomes of actions in given situations.

If we seek sanity and recognize patterns, we can be more sure of our footing, of our path and our calling.  If we accept our nature and that of the world in which we live, we may learn patience with the role we play.  If we maintain our sanity and patience, we will find that where we are and where we are going are both good and desirable.  Trust yourself and your intuition, but seek to grow your trust as ever much your insight.

Stay vigilant.  Trust sanity.


“…no one comes up from the basement playing perfectly.” – David Byrne, musician, artist

Mastery is a process, not an event.  It’s about day-in and day-out efforts – the practice, the honing of knowledge and skills, the trials, errors, and eventually getting it right.

You have to start – somewhere, somehow – to reach that level of mastery and excellence. Becoming remarkable doesn’t just show up – it evolves as you evolve, as you move forward.

Your challenge, today, is to start, one more time;  to continue the evolution, to continue, today and every day, the progressive realization of your dreams.

Love your life, perfect your life.

Time to make magic

“People who wait for a magic wand fail to see that they ARE the magic wand.” – Thomas Leonard

Recognize that you are in charge of you – your future, your everything.  There is no fairy godmother, no genie in the lamp, no wizard in the land of Oz. It’s up to you, only you, to nurture your dreams, pick your goals, build your plans, and then go after what you want.

When you’re not satisfied with where you are, when you stoke the burning desire to be in a better place, when you’re willing to get uncomfortable, step forward and enlist the resources of the universe – that’s when the real magic happens.

We must be willing to let go | Joseph Campbell

“We must be willing to let go of the life we have planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us.” – Joseph Campbell

It’s important to believe that you deserve the life about which you dream. If you’re a creature of habit, be sure to include learning, planning and actions towards the life you want to live. And when all else fails, when nothing seems to be going your way, don’t be afraid to pack your bags for a new adventure. Have faith in yourself and your dreams, and don’t leave your dreams for sleep.

Patience | Enjoy The Ride

“Patience child, patience. Remember, life is a journey. If you got everything you wanted all at once there’d be no point to living. Enjoy the ride, and in the end you’ll see these “set backs” as giant leaps forward, only you couldn’t see the bigger picture in the moment. Remain calm, all is within reach; all you have to do is show up everyday, stay true to your path and you will surely find the treasure you seek.”
— Jackson Kiddard

Universal responsibility is the key | Dalai Lama

I believe that to meet the challenge of our times, human beings will have to develop a greater sense of universal responsibility. We must all learn to work not just for our own self, family, or nation but for the benefit of all humankind. Universal responsibility is the key to human survival. It is the best foundation for world peace, the equitable use of natural resources, and through concern for future generations, the proper care of the environment. – Dalai Lama

The Pleasure of Simply Being

‎”Whenever you try to exert control over the natural ebb and flow of life, you end up either frustrated or disappointed– because it can’t be controlled. Whenever you apply effort to trying to relax and slow down, you produce the opposite effect. Whenever you try to dictate the outcome of your meditation you negate its most wondrous benefit– the pleasure of simply being.”
-Paul Wilson, The Quiet

The Starfish Story

One day a man was walking along the beach when he noticed a boy picking something up and gently throwing it into the ocean. Approaching the boy, he asked, “What are you doing?”
The youth replied, “Throwing starfish back into the ocean. The surf is up and the tide is going out. If I don’t throw them back, they’ll die.”
“Son,” the man said, “don’t you realize there are miles and miles of beach and hundreds of starfish? You can’t make a difference!”
After listening politely, the boy bent down, picked up another starfish, and threw it back into the surf. Then, smiling at the man, he said, “I made a difference for that one.”

Original story by: Loren Eisley