Why just go with the flow?

Only dead fish go with the flow. – Welsh proverb

When you’re just coasting along, and everything seems to be going great, beware.

Stay self-aware. Life is meant to be engaged – every day. And every day brings new challenges to embrace, new difficulties to overcome, new achievements to own.

If you’re just in the flow, you’re missing something.

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“Safety is a crime writers should never commit.” –Pat Conroy

And far more people than writers, too.

Some people need safety, security and comfort. That’s okay. There are plenty of 9 to 5 routines, and plenty of cubicle farms they can pursue. Writers, for example, can opt out of creating a life-changing book, and focus their days on writing insurance policies and restaurant menus.  It can make for a comfortable living.

But for those who want more for themselves, and more from their lives – for those who want to make their personal dent in the universe – more is required.

For those who want more than comfort, life will be messy. For those who want more than security, life offers days filled with difficulty, challenge and uncertainty.  For those who want more than safety, life brings the possibility to try, and fail, and try again and again.

What will it be for you?  Life on your terms, or someone else’s?

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Paint outside the lines

Paint outside the lines

There’s little to be gained following someone else’s formula, someone else’s design. When you’re required to paint within the lines – however expressed in your experience – it’s a warning sign that you’re living under someone else’s plan.

Sometimes – however temporary – you find yourself under another’s plan. Make it short. Know this: The better life is when you improvise.

The better life is an improvisation. Make it a long one.

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I’m a loser and a phony

“I’m a loser and a phony; my life is worthless and so am I.” – Steven Pressfield, from Do The Work

Ever feel that way? Ever feel that if people knew the real you, they’d run, fast, in the other direction?

You’re flying high. Loving life. Running on all cylinders. Then things start to unravel. In a series of seeming micro-moments, you neglect being self-aware, you compromise the authenticity of your true self, you lose focus on your intended purpose and direction. And wham, you’ve fallen from your intended path.

Welcome to the cycle of life. Stop complaining and get up. Get back in the arena.

The price for being in the arena is taking your blows. The price for being in the arena is the risk of getting distracted and taking that left hook than knocks you down. The price for being in the arena is getting back on your feet, making changes, and getting re-engaged.

You’re not a loser. Just some days you feel that way. On those days you’re getting the wake up call to get refocused – maybe reinvented – and get back in the arena.

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I have to change

Never ruin an apology with an excuse

I screwed up, and I can’t fix it. I can step up to what happened, and what I did. I can step up to my accountability for everything that shows up in my life. I can never make an excuse, or deflect the blame. It stops with me.

Saying I’m sorry isn’t enough. I can be contrite, I can express remorse and regret, but what I really have to do is change.

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In spite of fear

“It’s not about overcoming fear.” – Chris  Guillebeau

You can’t conquer every fear.  You can’t banish them from your life  You learn to manage them.

Life is not about eliminating fear, it’s about acknowledging its presence, accepting its existence as part of the journey.  Fear is a traveling companion, but you do not have to embrace fear, nor let it mentally metastasize and own your soul.  You take the time, and take the actions to deal with fear.

Some fears are healthy (like not putting your finger in the electric socket), some are warnings for further action (like studying so you won’t flunk the test), and some are just neurotic naggings that you need to put in perspective, to put in its proper place.

It’s important to not let fear limit your life or derail your dreams.  It’s important to find ways to cope with and manage fear.  It’s important to then move on with your life.   Fear may travel in the lane next to you, but it need not be your passenger.  You can achieve all the things you dream of in spite of fear.

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Fix your brain

“You can run from your problems, but not the flaws in your thinking.” – Tai Lopez

Most of your problems start within – between your ears.

You have to first fix your brain in order to fix your problems.  That’s where you start when you want to fix your life.

You have to learn to think critically, and begin to think critically.  You have to expose and remove all the fallacies,  wrong assumptions, and preconceptions you’ve been clinging to – all the stuff holding you back.  You have to let go and start again with better thoughts.

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To live a good life

What’s the good life?

To many, it’s having a lot of stuff, getting rich, and having worldly appetites indulged.

Yet all that material, carnal, consumer crap tends to dry up and quickly turn gray.

I want to feel alive, as alive as I possibly can. I want to do stuff that matters. With people who matter. Day in, and day out.

Deep inside my frail, little self, I want to matter. I want to live a good life, not just accumulate stuff.

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Your time can wait

Don’t one-up

Adding your story to someone else’s story can destroy relationships. It will undermine your personal presence and credibility.

We’re all guilty of adding that final remark. It too often arrives in a less than thoughtful, unconscious moment.   Sometimes it’s the competitor in us, and sometimes it’s our seemingly innocent attempt to fill a pregnant pause in conversation.

Stay mindful. Let the other person enjoy their moment in the sun. The time for yours can wait.

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Learn to be difficult

Learn to be difficult

When it counts.

Ask hard questions.  The world is full of bullies and those who prey on the ignorant.

Don’t be a pushover. Don’t accept crap being forced on you.  Know it when you see it.

Get smart.  Get assertive.  Learn to live on your terms, learn to live by your values.

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