“Want misery? Want regret?”
Then be someone other than yourself.
Why pretend? Why deny? Why not perfect the one you are? It starts when you jettison the shell you’re trying to live within and accept the possibility of you.
Do it for you.
“You won’t know how high to aim if you don’t look up.” - from Jessica Hagy
Get inspired. Find heroes. Discover awe and wonder in what surrounds you.
To become amazing you must first become amazed. Feed your dreams!
The moment you decide you truly want something in your life, and you commit that desire to a indelible goal, you already own it. You have made yourself accountable. You have created an intention that, if left undisturbed in your mind, will bloom into reality in the physical world.
Consider the tightrope walker who has committed to walking the seventy feet across the wire – suspended over fifty feet in the air. The focus is the other side; mentally, the walker is already there. All doubts are banished. Limitations, or the possibility of not making it, are eliminated and not manifested.
Today, act as if.
“If I fail more than you, I win.” - Seth Godin
To fear failure is to live in a small world, to live within the shadows of perfectionism, in the marginalia of life.
Live larger. Learn to take risks. Take risks appropriate to the task or goal, take risks that keep you in the game even if you fail.
It’s okay with me if you fail, because I know you will learn from your failure and try again, only better. You will stay in the game, and prevail.
“Lower your tolerance for time wasters.”
It’s not about duration, it’s about energy, enablement, forward progress. Your time is wasted when you feel depleted rather than energized, engaged, and uplifted in an encounter. When your journey feels impeded rather than enabled. When you feel your world becoming smaller in the presence of another. If you don’t feel good about you in an encounter, ask yourself why? Is it them, or is it you?
Those who waste your time waste your life. Sometimes you have to set boundaries, sometimes you have to change the channel and move on.
“Only the ideas that we actually live are of any value.” - Hermann Hesse
Getting ahead means getting started. It means not only dreaming, discovering, and creating ideas, but also becoming passionate about their possibility, and igniting them with action.
Thousands of people dream great ideas, every day. But ideas without action wind up in the graveyard of good intent. It’s not about what you intend, it’s what you do that counts.
“Don’t feed the trolls.” - Austin Kleon
You did something remarkable. You feel good about your accomplishment, about how it showcases your capabilities, knowledge and skills. Along the way someone shares that they like your work, and then reminds you to not quit your day job. Sound familiar?
Energy sucking trolls live among us. They don’t enable, they just inject a context of negativity and fear into our lives. Don’t feed them, don’t engage them. Let them go away, let them disappear back into the cracks along the periphery of life.
And remember to banish the troll who tries to live in your head too.
“…if you can build a good name, eventually that name will be its own currency.” - William Burroughs (to Patti Smith)
It’s not about the school you attended, or your resume, or where you live. It’s not about the car you drive or the last event you went to. It’s about you, the you people see, the one they in some way connect and interact with.
People eventually break through the force field, the shield surrounding your life. They get to see, or experience, the real you. So keep your name clean. Connect it with good work. Resist compromise.
Let who you are become your currency. And let the riches flow.
“Why overvalue what you’re not, and undervalue who you are?”
Play to your strengths, to your talents, to what stirs your soul. It’s easy to get distracted, to start focusing on - propping up – where you’re weak, rather than perfecting where you’re strong.
It’s more than a distraction, it’s an avoidance of where you should be going; a hesitation, a delay, a sidetrack on your journey. It’s caused by fear; fear of failure, fear of incredible success. So you hedge your bets, get good at lots of things yet fail to excel with your strengths, your passions.
And while it’s good to develop complementary interests and skills, to explore new capacities and capabilities, it’s not so great to do it at the expense of your mojo.
Love your mojo, that inner magic sauce that separates you from the pack. Perfect it. Value who you are, rather than patch up what you’re not.
“No free lattes.”
You graduated with honors, top percentile. You received awards of distinction, and moved on to a coveted job.
But as time moved forward the playing field leveled. You were good, very good – once. But now good is no longer good enough. The awards and distinctions, the prestigious job title, along with $3.60, will buy you a grande latte at your neighborhood Starbucks. Same as everyone else. There are no free rides, no free lattes. Get used to it.
What got you there before won’t get you to the next level today. You have to be better. You have to grow. You have to show increasing value to yourself, to the marketplace. Otherwise you fall behind, get lost in the shuffle; and there are many scrambling to take your place.
Why not grow? Why not become better, become more? If not for the marketplace, why not for you?