It’s fundamental to personal power.
Become aware of how often and how far you back up when others violate your boundaries. You don’t have to accept the intrusion of others just to keep the peace and avoid conflict. You can learn effective ways to push back assertively when pushed. You can learn to be in control.
You are in charge of how you teach others how to treat you.
Take the time to pause. In that space, that sliver of time that can be as brief as the time it takes to exhale, discover your power. Your power to choose how you will respond to whatever is showing up at the moment.
Within that space you exercise control over your life. You decide what’s next.
Life need not be a continuing series of thoughtless reactions. Take the time to create space, and choreograph your next move.
Middle ground is not the high ground. When you compromise, you don’t win, you just settle for less.
Are your goals too lofty, your standards too high? Is that compromise just practicality? Too often practicality is based on fear and a desire to be safe.
No one is truly safe. Why not play the game to win? You may lose from time to time, but losing is also part of winning.
When you judge others
Judging others does not define who they are, it defines who you are.
First look inside. Be accountable for your thoughts, opinions and judgments.
Next time you feel the urge to judge, think again. Be so busy improving you that you have no time to judge others.
You’re going to suck….
No matter what, we all suck at the start of anything new and worthwhile.
But don’t get used to it. Learn to suck less. Get better at it. And you will.
You can’t get good at anything until you first dare to suck.
Habits of highly ineffective people
- Play the victim
- Seek approval
- Prioritize the urgent over the important
- Endure less than satisfying relationships
- Quit when the going gets tough
There are at least 27 more habits. Which ones are tripping you up?
Because the smarter we get, the less we need to speak.
Listening – it’s more than just hearing, it’s the gateway to understanding. The act of listening is choosing not to vie for attention, but to learn.
Listening is how we build trust, how we solve problems, how we make fewer mistakes.
Is it time to listen, rather than wait to be heard?
Feeling better is no substitute for doing better
The deal closed. The work shipped. The bonus arrived. The pressure is off. So celebrate, relax, and recharge – but not for long.
Celebrations, affirmations and all the feel-good stuff can’t replace action and enterprise – the disciplined effort to get better. Life is about getting better or falling behind.
There is no substitute for doing better. Every day.
Heed the call…
Or live in your own prison.
You can be unstoppable, or made small. Either way, you do it to yourself.
What’s your heart telling you?