“At the end of the day there’s another day.” - Hugh MacLeod
Yesterday you thought that if hell exists on earth, then you know what it feels like. The pain, palpable. The fear, unrelenting. Yet here you are today. You passed through the fire. You’re ready to step forward once again and face what shows up.
Don’t let the bad days hold you back. No matter how long the day, how dark the night, you will make it to morning. You will greet the rising sun, embrace your day, and move on with your life – to your goals, your dreams, to the precious moments with those you hold dear.
You are unstoppable.
“Be a first rate version of yourself, not a second rate version of someone else.” - Judy Garland
You have a comparative advantage over everyone. You possess a unique combination of strengths and capabilities – assets combined that no one else has.
Find your strengths. Embrace them. Leverage them. Don’t waste time trying to fit or mold yourself into the abilities of someone else. Don’t try to compensate or struggle to do things that don’t align with your unique assets and passions.
You work best exploring your talents, doing what you’re good at, pursuing what excites and turns you on. Grow that advantage – it’s your unique life.
“Part of initiating is being willing to discover that what you end up with is different from what you set out to accomplish.” – Seth Godin
One of the great surprises in getting started is discovering what shows up on the journey. The twists and turns and intersections that you encounter on the way. The people you meet, the discoveries you make. The knowledge you gain, and how you grow and change.
People who start, who initiate action, rarely end up where they thought they were going. Things change – often remarkably – along the way. But many won’t start because they fear that surprise. They remain stuck.
Are you ready to start, perhaps one more time? Are you ready to be surprised? Are you ready for both the challenge and the joy of the journey?
“We tiptoe through life hoping to make it safely to death.” – Unknown
Go ahead. Play it safe. Avoid unnecessary risk. Just stay comfy.
We’re all terminal, no one’s getting out alive. And if you play it really safe, you just diminish the experience of being fully alive and very relevant today. You fail to enjoy life at a higher level.
Why hold back? Why stay in the shadows? Why not take some more risks and improve the quality of your life? Why not live fully today, not some day?
“Holding on to the mistakes of the past will not change it.”
Holding on to the crap from the past takes up too much brain space. It wastes your time, and stinks up your life.
It’s hard to let go. Mistakes, failures and losses quickly become familiar and convenient to cling to. The uncertainty of the future – a better future – requires vision, unshakeable faith, and the willingness to confront the fear of the unknown. It’s not for sissies.
But you’re no sissy. You’re ready to release the past and step into your future. You know that the only way to change the past is to face the fear of the future, embrace challenge, and boldly claim your better life.
“Watching someone go for it is disturbing to someone who hesitated.”
How many times have you heard, or maybe said “I’ve could have done that!” ? You’re smarter, have more connections, have deeper insights and capabilities; but you held back, convinced yourself that you couldn’t. You didn’t step forward, and someone else ran with it – now you’re angry, troubled, disappointed in yourself.
Next time that cool idea or compelling opportunity shows up, will you stay in the shadows? Will you tell yourself the lie that you’re not ready? Will you hold back? Or will you take a closer look, and try? When you try, you may fail, you may discover it’s not for you, you may find a better way and start again; but you will never feel the pain of regret from staying in the shadows.
“When we’re in fear, we hold on to what we’ve got because we don’t trust that there’s more.” – Jen Sincero
Life framed in fear is life framed in scarcity, life lived within limits. It’s like taking a deep breath and refusing to exhale, refusing to allow more oxygen to flow and nourish your body.
Exhale. Let go. Breathe. When you allow fear to control your life, you hold on so tightly to what you’ve got that there’s no room to get more.
Let go and get more. The flow of abundance awaits.
“What you are is not who you are.” – adapted from conversation between Kobe Bryant and Arianna Huffington – NY Times, Sept 28th.
You’re not what you do. You’re not the label people stick on you.
What you do today, and every day, is but an expression of you. What you do is a role you play, and play well. It’s what people see. The role you embrace, the work you create, the accomplishments you realize are evidence of your genius, but they don’t define you. They don’t define you because your life is larger, with so much more than the limited evidence the world grasps.
Don’t let the world typecast you. Live beyond your label.
“It’s great to be here. It’s great to be anywhere.” - Keith Richards
Love your life. Don’t let anyone try to mess with it. Don’t let anyone try to steal or destroy your dreams; and that includes you.
Start to appreciate, to celebrate, just how remarkable you are, and the even more remarkable person you’re becoming. Become self aware. Recognize when you begin to tamper with your own goodness, when you dilute the intensity of your dreams. It can start with something as simple as a self deprecating inner voice, and grow to undermine your sense of worth, of capability and value.
Learn to own your whole heart. Learn to love you.
“Your job isn’t to know the how. It’s to know the what…” – Jen Sincero
Most won’t focus on what they want. They get hung up on the how. Focusing on the how before committing to the what is insanity.
Getting stuck on how is an excuse to hesitate, procrastinate, to stay planted in the comfort zone and delude yourself that you’re satisfied with what you’ve got.
When you get committed to the what, you attract the how. You embrace difficulty and discomfort, you face your fears. You step out on your beliefs, take the first steps forward, and tell yourself and the world you’re willing to risk failure to get what you want. And that’s why few attempt.
But you attempt, because you are committed to getting what you want, unshakably knowing the how will show up. And it will.