The fastest way to succeed

Success or significance?

When you focus on significance, you’re drawn toward success, and move closer to your dreams.  Get the sequence right.

When you make a difference for others, you make a difference for yourself.

The fastest way to succeed is to help others succeed.

The fruit of tragedy

What is your fatal flaw?

Aristotle paraphrased:  “A man doesn’t become a hero until he can see the root of his own downfall.”

Every hero has a tragic weakness, a fatal flaw.  Too often it’s wrapped in pride – powered by ego.

Know the flaw that can bring you down.  Fix it.  Learn from mistakes.  

Errors in judgment, repeated day after day, and exacerbated by pride, ego and the need to be right bears the fruit of tragedy.  

Just change

Choose

It’s either change, or create a better lie.

The problem with lying is that one lie becomes more lies, and truth becomes an illusion.  In the end, the only one who believes the lie is the liar.

It’s easier to just change.   

Can’t quit

Not dead, can’t quit. – Richard Machowicz, former Navy SEAL

Suffering is the best teacher. In good times, we fail to fully register the value of what we go through when we’re in the less than good times.

Follow your bliss. Move through the pain. Embrace the suck. What turns you on, what you really want, is your true north.

What to do today that will matter

“Now here, you see, it takes all the running you can do, to keep in the same place.”  – The Queen, from Alice in Wonderland

Ever feel that way?  Running faster and faster and staying in the same spot?  It’s how too many live their lives.

Moving ahead is difficult.  It means taking deliberate effort to acquire new knowledge and skills.  It means choosing which tasks matter.

The hectic churn of hours is not the lever to moving ahead.  Moving ahead is about choosing what to do today that will matter in five years.

Pulled by love

Lose the fear

Of being wrong.  Of making mistakes.  Of getting criticized, scorned or rejected.

Look in the mirror – fearlessly.  If there’s something not quite right, figure it out and fix it. Not driven by fear, but pulled by love.

Fear cannot thrive in the presence of love.

Until it’s the right time

Opinion not required

We always have the power to hold no opinion.

Too often we create an unneeded urgency.  Too often we react when no reaction is required.  Too often we waste energy cultivating opinions that serve no benefit to ourselves or our world.

We have the power to hold no opinion; at least until it’s the right time to have an opinion.

The fear of missing out

No

It’s hard to say no.  Particularly when you’re not clear about your goals.

When your goals are fuzzy, almost everything that shows up starts to look like an opportunity.  You become fearful of missing out.  You start saying yes to things that don’t matter.

So get clear; get perfectly, precisely clear on what you want. Learn to say no so you can say yes to what counts.

Suspense

Nothing grows in ice

Nothing.  Everything sits suspended in space and time.

If we freeze our thinking, we won’t grow.   If we freeze our thinking, we won’t help others grow.  If we freeze our thinking, nothing new and wonderful will show up in our lives.

Letting tradition and convention rule creates a chilling effect on critical thinking.  Old beliefs and attitudes freeze our imagination and keep us stuck in suspended animation.

Break the ice.