Let go

How to make life easier:

Accept the apology you never got.  Then let go.

Let go because it’s exhausting to hold on to anger.  It’s debilitating to let resentment escalate into the fury that grows into free-floating rage.

Getting mad can just be a reaction, but staying mad is the slippery slope to the life you don’t want to live.  Let go.

There’s always someone out there…

“What I don’t understand, Stevie,” she said, “is why you write junk like this in the first place.”  –  Ms. Hisler, Stephen King’s high school principal (from King’s book:  On Writing; A Memoir of the Craft)

Stephen King’s career as a best-selling author might have never taken off if he paid serious attention to the shaming scorn he received from Ms. Hisler.   She didn’t like his first, 8-page launch into the world of horror and supernatural, retelling the story of The Pit and the Pendulum.   She considered it trash, and made him return the twenty-five cents that each of three dozen students paid for his first commercial venture. 

So it goes.

We all deal with shame.  When you create, when you step forward to do good work, there’s always someone out there who will try to make you feel lousy about it. 

But it’s not your problem; it’s theirs.  Shame gets its power only when you accept it.

You are enough.  Get on with your wonderful life.  

The power to figure it out

Make my mind adaptable to any circumstance. – Epictetus

We need not await orders from others on what they think we should do.  We can think for ourselves.  We can figure out the right path to pursue.

It comes down to being adaptable.  To think with a curious and creative mindset.   To become aware of what’s available to try, and then try it.  Try everything, and see what works.

If it works, stick with it.  Stick with it until results stop working.  Stick with it until we figure out the next and better step.

Never underestimate your power


The power of one

Sixty-two years ago today, Rosa Parks, a 42 year-old African-American seamstress, was seated on a public bus in Montgomery, Alabama.  She was in the row behind seats reserved for white people.  When her row was needed to accommodate an additional white passenger, she was asked to move to the back of the bus.  She refused, the bus driver had her arrested, and she was fined for breaking the laws of racial segregation in Alabama.

Her arrest was noted by leaders of the NAACP and others, resulting in a lawsuit, and a 381 day boycott of the Montgomery bus system.  The US Supreme Court later ruled that the bus segregation laws in Alabama were unconstitutional.

Years later, in her biography, Rosa said that she refused to move because she was “…tired of giving in.”  Her refusal to move led to an avalanche of legal and cultural changes that continue today.

Never underestimate your power – the power of one –  to change your world.

The most important ingredient

What to leave out?

Be selective.  Banish the bloat.  Let go of what does not add value to what you do, what you create, and how you live.  Figure out what has use, what has potential, and what needs to stay, or go.

Often the most important ingredient is the one you choose not to use.


Less can be more.

Masked fakery

Everything about porn is fake.

Everything about you (and me too) must be real.

Porn shows up with many masks; not just the raw, sexual stuff.  Gossip, false news, deceptive online content – the list goes on, distinguished by mental and emotional sleight of hand.

Fakery compromises our energy, and works feverishly to undermine our honesty to self, and confuse our moral compass.  We energize this fakery when we fail to think critically, when we forget to examine our choices, when we don’t manage how we spend our time and energy.

Let’s work harder, let’s think critically, let’s make better choices.  It’s time to move beyond porn – the pure fakery that distracts us from our purpose and path.

What I learn

Learn by listening.

What I say today teaches me nothing.  What I learn comes from listening to you.  With listening that takes on many forms.

It’s up to me to pay attention.  To observe, to listen, and take it all in.   And only speak when I have value to share.

Plenty of potential

Ideas are common.

Actions rare.

Until you act, your genius is just formless, static energy.   Plenty of potential, but nothing delivered.  Until you act, your ideas share no purpose, give no results.

Why not act on your ideas?  In some way you will change yourself, and in the process change your world.

With clockwork regularity

Change is the only sure thing

We’re moving, and everything around us is too.  Those thinking they can maintain the status quo are living in a fool’s paradise. 

Whether change is good or bad is in perspective, not necessarily fact.  But the inevitability of change is a fact.  It happens with clockwork regularity.

We must embrace change and find the opportunity within the new situation, the solution within the problem presented.   We must maintain the discipline of enabling habits that help us move forward.  We must be ready to change course, try new paths, and affirm our intent to prevail in spite of what is happening around us.

We either embrace and adapt with the circumstances of change, or accept narrowing limits on our lives.  Why accept limits?

My trust in me

What if?

What would I do if I didn’t have to do things perfectly?

Answer: More and better than I’m doing now.

Trying so hard to get it perfect gets in the way of getting it done.   That compelling, irrational desire for perfect is an act of my will and ego, rather than acceptance and flow – my trust in me.   Trying to get it perfect is me forcing a square peg into a round hole.

I want more acceptance, more flow, more harmony – in who I am and what I do.

After all, I am enough.