We are never quite ready to step into the ring and confront our next challenge.  Fear will try to convince us to wait, to be fully confident we are ready. The paradox is that being fully confident does not precede action — it tends to follow it.  We become ready enough by doing, not by…

Manage how you react to challenges and events.  Your friends notice, your enemies too. The way you respond tells a lot about you. Your reaction matches your values, not just your impulse; particularly when the social polish falls off.  For example, those who say they believe in fairness but react in pettiness share far more…

To reset. Know how to reset, and get better at it. It’s anecessary life skill. A bad hour need not produce a bad day, nor a bad dayproduce a ruined life. You can perpetuate mistakes, failuresand undesired outcomes. You can whine and complain.You can also make changes and move ahead in a betterdirection. It is…

The illusion of control is seductive, partly because it sometimes works. You make a plan, it succeeds, and your mind considers that evidence that you do have control.   You conveniently forget all the times a similar plan or approach failed.   Sometimes things work out despite us, not because of us. Be self-aware; pull back when…

Sometimes we need to sit with the unknown rather than try to resolve it.  Sometimes not knowing is not a problem to fix, but a space to inhabit.  Sometimes trusting the mystery becomes less of a spiritual luxury and more of a survival skill.

Gracious receiving is recognizing that when you let others give to you it becomes a gift back to them. Resist the temptation to deflect or minimize the gift; it robs people of the joy of giving.