[singlepic id=9 w=53 h=104 float=right]The cost of reflection is not only paid in time but in energy. In fact, much of our reflection is conducted in real time, without a pause and step back. There is value in taking time to pause, step back and reflect. But the intention of this article is to discuss the aspects of reflection that function real time and specifically to one aspect of how they relate to social interactions.
These aspects of reflection are negative feedback mechanisms from our social experience. We receive these indicators through social interactions with other individuals, animals and anything to which we might apply our mirror neurons in an experience of social relation. In each of these considered feedback loops, we con-form our social projections into a more tempered, collectively acceptable manner. We experience existential frustration when faced with situations in which there is a non-negligible degree of mutually conflicting desired experience attributes within the collective of considered perspectives. Our animal is therefor motivated to settle into experiences of most dependably minimal experiential or cognitive dissonance. In this case, there is motivation to conduct oneself socially, taking direction from these feedback loops, only if the reward for riding this curve is sufficient repayment for the energy cost.
What does this mean for us?
It would behoove you to seek validating social circles. These circles may be of like mindset or care or communication patterns or a necessary mix of multiple attributes. This minimizes your potential for suffering experiential and cognitive dissonance while often simultaneously maximizing social receipt in the form of validation and shared concept development. I do not recommend this be formally measured for application in your own life, but being aware of this mechanism may enhance your experience with extended social development.
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