Having your heart broken is an immensely valuable experience. I appreciate the idea of broken, because it has the immediate connotation of being fixable. My heart didn’t die, it didn’t end, it’s just broken. It will heal. It’s only broken because I over-exerted it. In fact, the extent to which I experience love and experience heartbreak, is a potential and growth building expansion of myself. I’m happy to feel so strongly and love so deeply that my heart bursts and breaks and hurts when my love is not received or reciprocated. It shows the incredible power of depth I possess. I want my intense love to be felt and returned. There I go with ‘want’ again. What have I learned about equanimity?
I must first, start with myself. Do I love myself? Am I the person that I would want to love? Am I lovable? Am I healthy? Am I happy? Am I needy? Am I clingy? Am I looking for comfort? Do I crave love? Do I fear love? What are my motivations? Am I aiming to fill voids -or- enhance and share fullness? Love is the most selfless and powerful of the emotions and connections we can imagine, feel and share. I must be ready to love. And, I must fully and vulnerably trust in love.
“You be you and I’ll be me, today and today and today, and let’s trust the future to tomorrow. Let the stars keep track of us. Let us ride our own orbits and trust that they will meet. May our reunion be not a finding but a sweet collision of destinies! Love and Love and Love Again, Stargirl.”
-Jerry Spinelli, Love, Stargirl
True love knows no time or distance. It tolerates waves of alignment and disconnect; times of togetherness and sprawled separation; frequency and abundance; absence and drought. Love is not made, created, proven or encouraged. Love is found in connection and understanding. Love is grown and cultivated in layers of common strands of interconnectedness, woven inside and out. Love sees itself in itself. Love is.
The light in me sees the light in you. Namaste.
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