“I miss you” is an extremely loaded statement, in my experience and use of the words. The problem with these words is their literal communication. There is so much implied and to be inferred. I admittedly have a problem with not saying what I mean. I often assume that others deduce my intentions and meanings, when, come to find, they take what I say at face value. There is so much behind my words and between my lines that I think others see. When they don’t, I curse the words that let me down. In fact, it is my inadequate use of these tools to convey my feelings and intentions that lets me down. There is so much to express, words just don’t suffice.
At the surface level, “I miss you” is an expression of longing for, lack of, or hunger for someone I care about, and am unfortunately separated from. It can simply be an expression or static statement of present status. But, dive a bit deeper and it has valuable expression and action inducing potential.
When I say, “I miss you” I am assuming there is an understood, unspoken desire and anticipation to be together– and needless to say, as soon as possible. I’m not simply stating present pain of separation. I’m not loathing and dwelling in misery. I’m not sharing negativity. I am planning solution and relief from this obstacle and these feelings of separation. “I miss you” is a reach for resolution. It is a statement of intention for action to remedy. And when real distance is involved, it is a very vulnerable admission of feelings; stepping out on a limb; a litmus test of sorts; a challenge to see where the missee’s feelings and intentions lie. It is a brave addendum to “I love you.” “I miss you” is an invitation…
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