Author: Bob Riding

Your composure is a powerful defense.  Your calm exerts pressure on others, particularly those who desire that you fail. Don’t react, or overextend, don’t rush to fill the silence.   In negotiation, conversation, conflict and competition. Remember, the first mover carries all the cost.  Let them.  Then when you do move — you move once. Precisely.…

If you have the money or the ability to solve the problem, you don’t have the problem. What we often frame as a problem is just an unexecuted solution.

A drop of ink in a glass of water clouds everything. Likewise, your attitude shapes how you feel, the effort you make, and the results you get from your day.  You do not control every circumstance the day brings to you, but you do control the attitude you bring to your day. 

Serving thankless people is a slow death.  Give them enough slack and they will break you.   You will never satisfy them, because they lack the emotional framework and skills to experience and express gratitude. Limit their access to your life.

Opportunities show up disguised within problems.   Too many focus on fixing the problem and miss finding the opportunity inside the problem. Choose to discover possibilities in the problems that show up.   

Let your encounters be a time to be generous. People are attracted to those who give, so give something of real value.  Give your recognition, time, patience, advice and attention.  Recognize that money is the least valuable item you can give. Anyone can open his wallet.  Few will open their lives.