Author: Bob Riding

You’ve changed, but your role hasn’t.  You find yourself playing the old version of you with the old crowd. You find yourself delaying replies, dodging invites, or hoping plans get canceled—even if you can’t fully explain why.  You just no longer feel the fit.  Quit playing who you were. It’s time to move on. It’s…

There are no tidy textbook endings, nor neatly scripted solutions to complex problems. Life is filled with unfinished endings, messy conclusions, and words left unsaid.  Yet we are wired to close the open loops, to find resolution. When no resolution is coming, when no closure is in sight, we focus on what we can control,…

If you’re doing it right, you keep moving on to more difficult goals.  You’re climbing, not coasting. When it gets easier, you’ve fallen prey to what worked in your past. Today is not the past, so reject that flawed enchantment of predictable perfection. Rather than wishing life were easier, why not wish you were better?

When you lose an important part of yourself the other parts won’t be far behind.   It’s easy to lose, or give up, purpose, identity, freedom, and even things of a material nature. Be careful what you give up.  Once you start, you risk triggering the chain reaction, the unraveling.  Losing one key piece can shake…

The sunk cost fallacy is real.   Staying where you are because you’ve already invested so much may prevent you from pursuing work, love, or environments that fit you better moving forward.  Postpone change too long and your defenses harden into identity.  Letting go of your past involves grief, fear and some disorientation, but you may…

“In times of change, the learners will inherit the earth, while the knowers will find themselves beautifully equipped to deal with a world that no longer exists.” – Eric Hoffer Beware of educated incapacity.  Many know quite well what was important yesterday, but haven’t a clue what they must now learn for today and tomorrow.   Those who…