Category: self-help

Experiment Life gets easier when you reframe choices as experiments, when you release the pressure to be perfect and resist the temptation to overthink failure.  Give yourself permission to experiment.

Refuse to live in the gray twilight that knows neither victory nor defeat. (paraphrased from Teddy Roosevelt) Every day we choose.  Will we engage in the struggle to create meaning and value?  Will we reject ignoble ease, and pursue the more difficult path?  Will we make a difference? Words, so plentiful and cheap, won’t suffice.…

Participation trophies don’t count Nope.  It’s not only a lie, it’s a dangerous message. Everything you get, everything that’s meaningful in life, is earned.  You have to do more than just show up. Loss is part of the cycle to get to winning.  There is no shame in losing. You don’t have to win at…

What if the experts are wrong? You, to the expert: “What time is it?” The expert: “Can I borrow your watch?” Filter what you hear through what you know, what you can find out.  Experts are as plentiful as table salt.  Everyone has an opinion. When you live according to the so-called experts, you cede…

Anyone can hold a grudge Too few can let go. Grudges, vendettas and the desire for revenge exact a price.   Life becomes smaller, becomes defined by anger, hurt and pain. Learn to forgive.  Depending on the circumstance, learn to wipe the slate clean, learn to exercise forbearance, learn to release the burden of bad feelings.…

What happens when we keep complaining? We keep blaming.  We keep making excuses. We keep losing. We can let go of the past, we can make changes, and we can get on with our better life.  Or we can choose to stay stuck.