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What people do is not because of you; it’s because of themselves.   People’s reactions, and choices are ultimately filtered through their own experiences, beliefs, fears, and desires — not you. When others are unkind or hurtful, don’t carry what they put down.  Don’t take the bait on someone’s fishing expedition. The reverse is true…

Give love. Give inspiration. Give memories. Fill your life, not your shelves. Less buying, more living, no apologies. Stuff dies. The stories you create don’t.

The pursuit of the proxy We often pursue a proxy, mistaking it for the real thing.  Why? Why, for instance, do we pursue money when what we really want is security and freedom?  Perhaps money will help if we are ready to use it properly, and perhaps it won’t.    Money is an easy proxy to…

Why we train and prepare The goal is not to eliminate fear.  We cannot overcome it.   We train and prepare to respond in the midst of stress and chaos, and stay fully functioning despite fear.

Spectators never cross the finish line.  They don’t score the goal or get the win.  They remain on the sideline. We don’t always play, but at some point we must get in the game.  To keep sitting on the sideline, and not get on the field of play, is to relinquish our agency, and become…

I’m on the hook I’m taking my turn. It’s up to me. If something goes wrong, the buck stops here. No blaming other people, or the bureaucracy, or the unfair system. I’m not looking to be soothed and comforted by passing blame. I’m personally accountable, it stops with me. The choice to be on the…