When we are unhappy with life, love or ourselves, it is difficult to see happiness within reach. Fear not, through the seemingly hopeless, clouded haze, there are sunny skies. The temptation may be to hide and run away on our cloudy days, retreating in fear and self-punishment. These are highly negative activities and are likely not helpful in producing positive momentum and forward growth.
The logic may be in thinking that by punishing ourselves in negativity, we will be motivated toward positive change. This seems a sad psychological view and self-induced creation of “rock bottom” or “enough is enough” in order to force a turn-around. But we are fully aware that positivity creates more positivity. Why torture ourselves to a breaking-point before rising above it?
When we feel this badly is when we need the most love. Sometimes we need help or to be held and nurtured. Hiding and punishing ourselves for being less than perfect will only make us feel worse. And often when we are this low and our ego is struggling so severely, we don’t want to need love and help. It is okay to let go of the fight. Learn when to exercise effort and when to let go. Learn to let love.
If you have made mistakes, learn from them, accept responsibility and move forward with more wisdom than you had before. If you don’t know where to go to move forward, start with the smallest, deepest truth you know and build from there. When you know yourself it is easier to feel good and take better care of yourself. Do not punish yourself. Love and create yourself.
“Love me when I least deserve it,
because that’s when I need it the most.”
-Swedish Proverb
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